Everyone loves gossip. Whether it is
for just hearing or spreading or creating, we all love it. Things that are
murmured and told in less tone always creates expectation and desire to hear
it. Some would say that Gossip is just idle talk and rumor. But in many case
and many occasions this has become a part of the life and had created history
making people or destroying people.
Yes a Gossip can be both advantageous
and also could become a disaster for an individual or a group or for a country
even. With the advent of internet and modern technology Gossip has become more
powerful because of the reach it has. Now a Gossip could reach millions and
millions of people in no time at all. Gossip is more powerful than the most
powerful machinery or weapon ever invented by Man.
Gossips appearing and becoming viral in
the net do not affect your actual life as they are mostly about Celebrities,
Politicians or famous Sports men. But a gossip in your local area or in your
work place can directly affect you and can create effects that are good and
bad.
Indications of a Gossip:
Consider you are entering a place or a
location where a group of people are gathered and talking. If the place becomes
suddenly silent then you can say that they were talking about you and it is a
gossip. You have broken a running conversation that was interrupted by your
entry. There are other signs as well.
You can find people staring at objects
or other people without any reason and purpose pretending they are engaged in
some serious thought. Believe it, they are actually doing some serious
thinking, may be about you or your actions or your personality.
There are instances when people would start
talking topics that are not related to the occasion or the place. You might
wonder why and how the topic had come into existence.
Why people should gossip. That too
particularly about a person.
Gossips could be of two kind - Good and bad.
Good gossips boost your reputation but
bad gossips try to diminish your image among fellow people.
Gossip requires the following three
bases to build up a topic and expand it.
1) You should have done something very
extraordinary that is liked by a person who is a natural creator of gossips.
2) You should have done something weird
out of ordinary that has drawn attention on you.
3) You are succeeding or going to
succeed in a big way.
4) You have failed or about to face a
failure of great dimension.
What you should do if you think people are
gossiping about you?
Just ignore it. This is the best way of
neutralizing a gossip. Even just a word from you about the topic would fuel the
fire and make it burn and spread faster. It might also help you, if you
are in business and the gossip is about your business. In such a case you can
try to fuel it by adding additional tempo. This would certainly increase the
possibilities of making your business a success at a faster rate.
How Gossips initiate?
Try to understand what initiated a
gossip. If it is a good deed of yours then you can better keep quiet and watch
the developments as a mute spectator. But if it is because of a bad deed of
yours, sit silently in your private place and think what you have done is right
or wrong. Irrespective of what people talk about this, you will be having your
own opinion and understanding about that highlighted topic. Convincing yourself
whether it is right or wrong is the main task you would have in your hand.
Because convincing your own self is much more difficult than convincing others.
Other important action you can take is,
do not get into any gossips in your work place or in any other place even if it
is about others as the next gossip might target you.
If you are convinced that the gossip is
about you only, try to gather facts and figures about that and do a complete
analysis on the subject. If honestly you find that the mistake is yours then
try try to make amends. Do not feel ashamed to even apologize to the worst of
your enemies which would only help you in boosting your image and popularity.
If you feel that the thing has gone beyond your limits get some help from your
trusted friends or relatives.
There are some positive aspects of gossips
also.
Gossips help people in understanding
about others in that social group. It also creates a social bondage among
people who were not that much attached together. Gossips sometime break the
existing notions and understandings we have without any difficulty and help us
in start a new mind set about that particular person or the society in general.
Positive gossips about a person
increase his reputation within an organisation or Society. Gossips are
normally informative, whether true or not is our concern that helps as tool of
educating people and acts a school of social bonds and strategies.
There are negative impacts also that derive from gossips.
Gossips waste a lot of time that stops
people from engaging in productive acts.
Gossips makes people lose morality and
trust among a group or an organisation.
Gossips might increase the anxiety of
people that keeps them tensed all the time about what they know and what they
intend to know about the topic. Another thing that drives people is to find out
the truths behind the gossip and in their quest for their truth they might
start a separate gossip unknowing that might become a bigger one than the
original gossip.
Gossips can also create divisions
inside a society that could prove dangerous. It could leave a person very much
hurt and some incidents this had resulted in Suicides even.
Most of the people who create gossips
and spread it are socially or economically weak or under developed or
developing from the bottom. Beware, gossips are not going to help in any way.
The likability index of your personality also takes a beating as those hearing
your gossip about another person might think that you might do the same to him
also and would tend to be careful with you or try to keep some distance from
you.
Gossips are good as long as they are
for the good cause and even if it is for a bad cause do not get involved in it
and keep yourself away from the gossipers.
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